We often hear phrases like “We are what we repeatedly do” or “Fake it till you make it.” But what do they really point to? The answer lies in the subconscious mind—a vast storage of habits, memories, desires, and past experiences that shapes much of who we are today.
Understanding the subconscious is key to self-growth. When we learn how it works, we also learn how to reprogram it to serve us better.
What is the Subconscious Made Of?
1. Habits
Our subconscious stores the things we do repeatedly—until they become automatic. Think of learning to drive a car, using new technology, or cooking a familiar dish. Over time, practice rewires our brain, turning conscious effort into effortless habit.
Lesson: To change your life, start by changing your habits. What you repeat, you become.
2. Actions
Psychologists often talk about the connection between actions, emotions, and outcomes. Even if you don’t “feel” confident, acting confident repeatedly creates new mental patterns. Smiling, for instance, can influence the brain’s chemistry and make us actually feel happier.
Lesson: Conscious actions today shape the subconscious patterns of tomorrow.
3. Wishes, Desires, and Dreams
John Locke’s idea of the human mind as a tabula rasa—a blank slate—reminds us that we can “program” our subconscious. Dr. Bruce Lipton even suggests that 95% of our lives are run by subconscious programming formed in early childhood.
Lesson: Our dreams and desires only take root when they are consistently programmed into the subconscious through belief, repetition, and action.
When Does Subconscious Programming Begin?
According to Lipton, most subconscious programming happens in the first seven years of life. Children absorb everything—language, behaviours, emotional patterns—without conscious effort.
This means that many struggles we face as adults—fear of failure, difficulty making decisions, or patterns in relationships—are linked to early programming. As Freud and Jung highlighted, the past always finds expression in the present.
Lesson: To understand your struggles today, explore the patterns from yesterday.
Why Does the Subconscious Influence Our Behaviour?
Because it’s an accumulation of the past. Archetypes (parents, teachers, culture, life events) live within us, silently shaping decisions. That’s why hypnotherapy and NLP are used to uncover subconscious patterns.
But here’s the good news: you don’t need therapy alone to reprogram your subconscious. With the right practices, you can become your own self-programmer.
How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind
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🔹 Step 1: Identify What Needs Reprogramming
Struggles point to areas of subconscious conflict.
- Trouble with finances?
- Difficulty building relationships?
- Struggling with emotional control?
These challenges are clues that your subconscious programming is holding you back.
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🔹 Step 2: Repetition Creates New Wiring
Repetition is the secret to rewiring habits. When you repeat a new action long enough, it becomes second nature—just like driving eventually shifts to autopilot.
Example: If you grew up with over-controlling parents, making independent choices may feel scary. By repeatedly practising decision-making, you retrain your subconscious to associate independence with safety instead of anxiety.
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🔹 Step 3: Positive Self-Talk & Affirmations
Words have power. Positive affirmations work because they change brain chemistry and influence goal-directed behaviour. Concepts like the Law of Attraction and creative visualisation are based on this principle.
Try This: Replace “I can’t handle this” with “I am learning to handle challenges better each day.”
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🔹 Step 4: Use Bedtime Wisely
What you feed your mind before sleep stays active in the subconscious.
Tip: End your day with meditation, gratitude journaling, or visualising your goals. Let your last thoughts be empowering ones—they will echo overnight.
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