“Only if I were to find a job with a better Boss”, “Only if I had a spouse who understood me better”, “Only if there was a way to run away from the misery of an abusive spouse”, “Only if I had a chance to run away from financial crunch”; how many times have such thoughts crossed our minds?
We are all faced with situations that we wish never happened and when they happen, all we can think of is ways and means to escape them. Life is a journey full of such experiences and situations, when the best way to maintain our sanity is to dream how wonderful it would be if this would all go away magically in an instant. How blessed we would be if there were ways of avoiding such situations completely!
However, our effort to flee away from the situation is like an avoidance response to the situation. When we avoid a problem, a conflict, an adversity, we are trying to resist making any efforts to change the situations. At such a time we do not realize that the universal principle of “what you resist persists” is in action.
How do you learn not to resist and rather to PERSIST in the situation?
Few reminders that can help you to stick to the trying times:
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
– Victor Frankl
Reminder 1: CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE
“It’s so easy to lose faith and become lost in all of the politics of the world. That’s why we need the arts. To sublimate our frustration and anger into something beautiful. Freud called sublimation a virtuous defence mechanism because it is in the arts that we can find our humanity.”
– Kamand Kojouri
Reminder 2: SUBSTITUTE UNNECESSARY BEHAVIOUR WITH CREATIVEWORK
“Power is the ability to translate, that is, to shift from one level of attention to another.”
– Frederick Lenz
Reminder 3: SHIFT ATTENTION/FOCUS
“A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else”
Reminder 4: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
“Your life is controlled by what you focus on.”
– Tony Robbins
Reminder 5: FOCUS ON THE PRESENT, THE POSITIVE & THE PRODUCTIVE
“The power of the idea can be measured by the degree of resistance it attracts.”
– David Yoho
Reminder 6: LET CHANGE RESIST, YOU MUST PERSIST
“Change is hardest in the beginning, messiest in the middle and best at the end.”
Reminder 7: EMBRACE CHANGE (of ENVIRONMENT, PEOPLE and to top it all of YOURSELF)
“When we see beyond self, we no longer cling to happiness. And when we stop clinging we can begin to be happy.”
Reminder 8: EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS
To sum up:
We need to look beyond the self-imposed limitations that make us resist the changes and circumstances that require us to adapt. Once an individual is able to embrace the present, look positively towards what exists and think beyond one’s comfort zone, that is the time when one is able to break free from the prison of one’s thoughts and achieve the so called impossible.